Our Story
I didn’t step into holistic motherhood because it was trendy or aesthetic.
I got here because I stopped feeling safe in the system I was told to trust.
My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 5 weeks and 6 days. When I went to the OB afterward, I felt like just another number—rushed through, emotionally unsupported, and expected to move on without much acknowledgment of what I had just lost. That experience changed something in me.
It was the beginning of a deeper questioning:
Is this really the best care we have?
Are women actually being supported—or just managed?
That question led me to explore midwife care, natural birth, and to start truly paying attention to my health. I began shifting more intentionally into a non-toxic lifestyle and learning how much personal responsibility we actually have to take when it comes to our bodies and our families.
Our Story (cont.)
After COVID—and watching how forcefully certain medical decisions were pushed—I found my trust in the medical system eroding even further. By the time I became pregnant again, I knew I wanted something different.
I planned a home birth, but things didn’t go as planned. I ended up transferring to the hospital, had an epidural, and experienced a few minor interventions I hadn’t wanted. While I’m grateful for a healthy baby, the experience left me with even more questions—and a deeper realization that advocating for yourself matters more than most people are taught.
That birth sent me further down the path of learning, unlearning, and trusting my intuition.
When I became pregnant with my daughter, we planned another home birth. This time, I labored at home until 8cm—just three hours in. Due to multiple births happening at once, my midwives transferred me to their birth center, where I still had the natural birth I had hoped for.
It wasn’t the exact plan—but it was everything I needed.
It felt like redemption.
That experience reminded me that birth doesn’t have to be perfect to be empowering.
Breastfeeding, Supply Struggles, and Real Life
With my first son, I struggled with an undersupply. I didn’t have the knowledge or support I needed at the time, so we supplemented with donor milk and eventually formula alongside my milk.
With my daughter, I wanted a different experience—but again, it wasn’t linear.
The first four weeks went beautifully. Then we introduced a pacifier. Despite being told nipple or pacifier preference “isn’t a thing,” my daughter began struggling at the breast and lost half a pound in just a few days.
I moved to exclusive pumping, producing around 2.5 oz per session. Through learning, consistency, and a lot of trial and error, I was able to rebuild my supply to 5–7 oz per pump—eventually getting her fully back to the breast and pumping extra.
Today, she’s five months old and absolutely thriving.
Why I Share All of This
I’m not here to tell anyone what they should do.
I’m here because I know how isolating motherhood can feel when:
you question the norm
you don’t fully trust the system
you’re trying to make informed choices without fear or judgment
and you’re learning as you go
That’s why I created The Motherhood Haven—a calm space for loud, messy, real motherhood, rooted in holistic living, personal choice, and mutual respect. A place where moms can share experiences, ask questions, and learn without being criticized or debated.
I don’t believe in perfection.
I believe in honesty, responsibility, and supporting one another through the messy middle.
If you’re here, chances are you’re walking a similar path—or you’re curious to learn more. Either way, you’re welcome to stay.